‘One more story!’ ‘I need to potty!’ ‘Just one more hug…’ If this sounds familiar, you’re in the thick of the bedtime negotiation phase. Child psychologists remind us that toddlers aren’t deliberately manipulating; they’re asserting independence and looking for connection before a long stretch apart.
Set the stage
Before bedtime begins, calmly explain the routine—bath, two books, three kisses, lights out—and stick to it. A visual schedule can help your child understand what comes next. Offering limited choices, such as which pajamas or which book, gives them a sense of control.
Provide what they need
Many requests stem from genuine needs. Prevent them by creating a ‘bedtime basket’ with a stuffed animal, water bottle and favorite blanket. Validate your child’s feelings—‘I know you love reading together’—but hold the boundary: once books are finished and lights are out, it’s time to sleep. An ‘OK‑to‑wake’ clock can help reinforce when it’s time to get up, and using a consistent, calm script (‘It’s bedtime. I love you. I’ll see you in the morning’) limits negotiations.